More Minutes for Moms

Do Not Worry

The Bible says not to worry about anything.

Ponder that for a moment.

Not-to-worry-about-anything.

That’s intense.

My Mom heard a quote once and when she detects worry in herself (or me!) she says, “Worry is needless, useless and godless”. She’s right.

Worry zaps the life out of good moments and sucks the happiness out of everything.

I conclude, worry is deadly.

According to an article by Earl Nightingale, “The Fog of Worry” he sums it up by saying that 40% of the things we worry about never happen. We worry over our past, things that can’t be changed; which he says accounts for a whopping 30% of our worries, health worries come in at 12%, miscellaneous worries 10%, which brings us to real worries at 8%!

I think you get the picture. Worry is needless, useless and godless, especially if we are believers in Jesus and have the assurance of Psalm 23, “The Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want …”.

Of late, I’ve been meditating on this scripture.

“Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I will say, rejoice! Let your gentleness be known to all men. The Lord is at hand. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.  Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things”. Philippians 4:4-8

Pretty well sums it up doesn’t it?

Rejoice, be gentle, the Lord is near. Don’t be anxious, ever. When you pray, present your requests to God and thank Him – the answers are on the way. When you pray God’s way, peace will flood your soul, protecting your heart and mind. Think on things you know are true, decent, moral and pure. Whatever things are lovely and are delightful to hear about, are honourable and admirable – meditate on those things.

Such a good portion of scripture to memorize and to speak out loud, sometimes very loud … try it the next time you’re tempted to worry.

Today’s Prayer

“Dear Heavenly Father, forgive me for worrying. You are God and I am not. I am yours and you are mine. Truly, I have nothing to worry about”.

 

Encouragement - Complaining

No Complaining

Murmuring and complaining is just plain horrible. You dislike it in your kids and in their parents, it’s worse, we should know better.

I’ve tried not to be a complainer, however, let me tell you about one complaint.

My bed … and … it’s all in your perspective.

I use to moan about my bed. It was so hard. I’d often say, “I have to get another bed, I just can’t sleep on this anymore, it’s like sleeping on a rock”.

That is …until I went on a trip.

A trip to a third world country.

Let me explain.

After 24 hours of travel, I finally arrived at my destination and was shown to my room. I put my things down and exhausted, I thought I’d catch a little shut eye before supper; I flopped down on the bed. My head hit the pillow first.

It didn’t “flop”.

I’d never felt anything so hard. It was like hitting pavement. I abruptly sat up and thought to myself, “is this a bed? for sleeping?” The pillow was like the bed, hard as a rock.

Needless to say, I thought of my “terribly uncomfortable” bed at home and my complaint. I felt bad. Real bad. God forgive me for my petty ungratefulness.

After a week of sleeping on a truly hard bed, and noticing others around me sleeping in shacks, which didn’t have a bed at all, I learned my lesson well.

I never again mentioned my “hard bed”, in fact …

When I got home and crawled in … I sighed, it felt as soft as a cloud in heaven.

Amazing isn’t it?

It’s all in your perspective of things.

“Do everything without complaining and arguing …” Philippians 2:14

“It is a good thing to give thanks unto the Lord and sing praises to your Name oh Most High”. Psalm 92:1

Today’s Prayer:

Dear Heavenly Father, forgive me for complaining about anything. Just knowing You is enough for any of us to be grateful everyday of our lives. Thank you for everything Lord. You are so good to us and I sing and give you praise today!

Happy Mother's Day - for Mom

Things I’ve Learned from a Godly Mom

My Mom is my friend. Here’s what she taught me.

1. Love God.
2. Love your husband.
3. Love your children.
4. Love life.

Now here’s a little more …

Mom is fair, consistent and trustworthy; any conversation you have is safe with her. She’s a devoted Mom, loves you no matter what. Mom says “yes” as much as possible, doesn’t even matter if she had other plans. She’s for you. She believes in you. She opens her home to her daughters, their husbands, her 10 grandchildren as well as her 10 great-grandchildren … anytime. Mom is loving. She’s a positive person. She is fun and full of life. Mom cooks for you – bakes for you – always has time to chat with you. She’s the best.

There is one more exceptional quality I admire in my Mom, one that is priceless.

She prays.

Besides my Dad’s prayer life, Mom’s is unmatched.

You’ll find her every morning, going through every name of her family, extended family, her church family, her country … Mom doesn’t just talk about prayer – she prays. All her family knows she does and we feel her prayers.

If you share a problem with her, she advises, “God is still on the throne, let’s pray about it”. She tells you the truth, in love, always in love.

As a wife and mother myself, the “Proverb 31 Woman” is someone to look up too …

Mom, I see these qualities in you. Perhaps you don’t spin wool and make your own bedspread as in Bible times, however, your character has now come to full maturity, you are the “Proverbs 31 Woman”.

Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her: “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!” Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise. Proverbs 31:28-31

Yes, Mom, there are many women in the world and mothers too numerous to count; but you Mom, excel them all.

Happy Mother’s Day from your 3 daughters – Wendy, Brenda and Lynda.

Mom, let them go

For a myriad of reasons, Moms often make the mistake of hanging on to their adult children. The reality is, as hard as it is – they have grown up and the past is the past and it is past.

As Moms, that’s tough. We are natural nurturers.

However, our “offspring” are starting to go “off” and our role must change.

Off to college, jobs, travelling, marriage … they begin to take responsibility for their lives. Albeit many are immature and not ready – however, the seasons of life change for them as well as for us.

Time marches fast.

“The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down”. Proverbs 14:1

 A wise mother will recognize her season and make the necessary adjustments.

A wise woman builds her house … ask God what that looks like for your family in this season of life.

I trust you tried your best to raise your children when they were impressionable and under your care. If you feel you failed, talk to God today and ask for His wisdom on the matter. He’ll tell you what to do to make things right.

Or … perhaps you are struggling in this area of letting your children mature into adulthood, again, allow me to encourage you to go to the wisest parent of all – our Heavenly Father and ask Him what to do in this new season.

Jesus says:

“Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world gives, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” John 14:27

 Today’s Prayer:

 “Heavenly Father, teach me how to act in this new season of life. Mature me Lord, so I can be a blessing to my children. Teach me to be a wise mother and keep building my house, but in a different way in this season. Lord, help me to change”.

 

 

 

resist the enemy's lies

Resist the Enemies Lies

The devil tortures with fear. He whispers:

“Your kids will buckle when faced with decisions. They won’t stand up for themselves.

They will follow the crowd. They won’t walk away when they should. They won’t have any backbone. They won’t follow God”.

 “You’re a terrible parent. You never get things right. You can’t raise your kids well.

They will never turn out well. You’re such a failure. You won’t even live long enough to see them grow up”.

Resist the enemies lies. Same old, same old.

The Bible says the accuser is the “father of lies”. He tries to paralyze God’s people with fear, however, the Bible gives us advice on counterattacking.

“Resist him and he will flee”. Resist means to fight back.

We fight back with truth. God’s truth.

Here are some facts to counteract his lies:

According to Luke 2:40 “my children will be strong in spirit, filled with wisdom and the grace of God will be upon them”.

According to Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me”.

 I can resist the enemy according to James 4:7. Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you”.

You are partnering with God to raise eternal human beings. He loves them more than you do. Allow me to encourage you to pray for them often. “Lord, make them strong. Help them to make a good choice right now. Deliver them from evil”.

God is all powerful and He can keep your kids.

That, dear reader – is absolute truth!

 “Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us” Ephesians 3:20

  “God does not give us the spirit of fear, but of power and love and a sound mind, completely whole and not confused”. 11 Timothy 1:7

“Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it”. Proverbs 22:6

 Today’s Prayer:

 “Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for reminding me of your truth. I believe your word and will no longer fall into despair because of the enemy’s lies. Thanks you Lord for keeping my kids. I trust you”.

 

 

 

Mom, God sees you ...

It had been a busy day and I kept moving from morning to night, actually, with a new baby in the house, I was moving in the middle of the night as well.

It was bedtime for my other two and I had just tucked them in.

Completely exhausted with my 3rd child now asleep in my arms, I sat down to catch my breath.

When I revived enough to make it up the stairs, I tucked my infant son in his crib and tiptoed down the hall to check on my two little girls. They were breathing softly in sleep.

“Good” I thought, “I’ll scoot to bed now”.

However, as I lingered at the girl’s door watching them in their beds, the weight of raising them hit me.

The responsibility of their lives overwhelmed me. Did I have what it takes to raise them?

Up to this point, God had entrusted me with 3 eternal human beings. 3 people that would spend eternity somewhere, and I was their mother. Their teacher. Their nurturer. At this age, I was everything to them.

I slid down the wall in the hallway and sat on the floor and cried, “Oh God, help me to be a good mother to these children. Teach me how to raise them to serve you”.

I understood I couldn’t do it on my own.

I knew I needed God in a big way.

When no one notices the sacrifices you make, the love you give or the patience you display day after day – remember, God sees you.

I encourage you to memorize these verses. Write them out and carry them close. God will help you.

“Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from him”. Psalm 127:3

“He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; He gently leads those that have young”. Isaiah 40:11

“I know the Lord is always with me. I will not be shaken, for he is right beside me”. Psalm 16:8

Today’s Prayer

“Dear Heavenly Father, I too am overwhelmed at my responsibility. I’m pulled in all different directions and feel like I’m about to fall apart. Please help me. Let me see the children you have placed in my care as gifts, rewards from you. Give me everything I need to be a godly mother. My trust is in you. Please help me”.

 

kids and sportsPlaying any sport forces you to persevere. Playing on a team produces cooperation.

When my five children were young, we encouraged them to play all kinds of sports. Not really because of me, I might add, it was their Dad who loved sports and could play anything.

Dejectedly, when I went to school, I was always one of the last ones picked for a team.

I wanted to play everything, but no one wanted me.

My husband jokes now and says “I would have picked you had I known you back then”.

I know better.

He wouldn’t have!

He likes to win and somehow I didn’t look like a winner! Don’t worry, I have no issues regarding my childhood school yard picks!

Sports though, teaches teamwork, discipline and cooperation. We spent many hours driving to and from all sorts of games.

We celebrated their victories and mourned their losses.

Teamwork teaches them to persevere; not to quit and stay on the team.

Life isn’t always fair and some coaches aren’t either. Allow me to encourage you to make those teachable moments. Sadly, our kids find out soon enough, life isn’t fair and neither are their bosses.

However, playing on a team is still helpful in life. Even though not every child is “athletic” any group activity, sports or otherwise, will teach them life skills. Be sure to spend some time pondering what sport or activity is right for them. Find one that suits your child.

“I can do everything through Him who gives me strength”. Philippians 4:13 

 “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven”. Ecclesiastes 3:1 

 Today’s Prayer:

“Thank you Heavenly Father for healthy children who can run and play. Help me to teach them to persevere and not quit when the going gets tough. They can do everything through You who gives them strength. Help me to encourage my children”.

 

 

 

 

 

 

God Redeems Broken Women

God Redeems Broken Women

Have you ever felt like a broken woman? Thought your life was ruined? Let me tell you the story of Rahab.

She was a broken woman.

Her profession … well, unprofessional.

Though Rahab’s lifestyle was shameful, God saw her and knew what she could become. He knew her heart.

God’s eternal plan would one day weave through her, a broken woman.

You may remember the story of how she hid two spies. These two men came to check out the “walls of Jericho”. They heard the city was impenetrable and they needed to “investigate”. Rahab was kind and protected them from being found and killed. In return, the two spies protected her and her family when the “walls fell”.

Rahab was a completely unlikely “angel” however, God often uses broken women to bring about His plan and He still does today.

Through Rahab, Boaz was born, then his son and their lineage continues all the way to Jesus.

How wonderful of our Lord. He sees right to the heart of all of us. None of us are beyond His redemptive power.

God redeems broken women.

“Come now, let’s settle this,” says the LORD. “Though your sins are like scarlet, I will make them as white as snow. Though they are red like crimson, I will make them as white as wool”. Isaiah 1:18

“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness”. 1 John 1:9

 “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds”. Psalm 147:3

 Today’s Prayer:

 “Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for loving me, even when I have trouble loving me. Like Rahab, you see what I can be and that gives me hope. Forgive me of all my sins. Heal my heart and change me I pray”.

patience

Sarah Needed Patience

Perhaps you have heard the story of Abraham and Sarah in the Bible. God promises them a child and when that child does not come – Sarah takes matters into her own hands.

She doesn’t wait on God’s timing.

We certainly find Sarah’s solution to her problem appalling. To believe another woman’s child, fathered by her husband, was the answer to her barrenness, is outrageous.

Rather than wait on God’s timing and promise – Sarah tried to bring about God’s plan her way …

Didn’t work for Sarah and doesn’t work for us either.

Instead of the joy she anticipated – she received heartache. Similar to Sarah, anytime we try to manipulate matters, we merely complicate situations. God did hear Sarah’s prayers and even though she messed up, in His timing – He did indeed bless her with a child, the promised son Isaac.

Let us learn from mothers gone before us, God will answer our prayers.

May we learn to wait on God’s timing.

Oh how I need to trust Him more and wait for Him to move on my behalf.

 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take”. Proverbs 3:5,6

“The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down”. Proverbs 14:1

“Trust in the Lord at all times … pour out your heart before Him”. Psalm 62:8 

Today’s Prayer:

 “Dear Heavenly Father, I have to admit I try to take matters into my own hands, thinking I have all the wisdom to make the right choices. Forgive me. May I wait on you, your timing. Help me to continue to trust you with all my unanswered prayers and wait for you to act”.

raising good kids

PRAY, READ AND BE FAIR

Important truths when raising a family.

Have you ever tried to get everything right and somehow everything seems to go wrong?

When troubles, demands and day-to-day life leave you feeling overwhelmed and in despair, what do you do?

How do you make it through difficulty?

How do you make it through another day? Another week?

How do you successfully raise godly kids?

How do you keep calm in your present situation?

Allow me to give you a few suggestions that have worked for me. Very important truths.

  1. Pray
  2. Read God’s Word
  3. Be fair

Pray

With your husband, kids and all of them having different needs at different times, it is important to know where your help comes from …

“My help comes from the Lord, who made heaven and earth” Psalm 121:1-2

When you need help from God, cry out, “help me”. Jesus always encouraged me during my mothering years. I felt His strength when I prayed. In fact, some of the sweetest moments in life has come during these times of prayer.

Read God’s Word

You would think that’s a given, however, so many people never read God’s instruction manual. The Bible has an answer for every problem.

It is so important to find God’s answer and apply His wisdom to the situation. Be honest, before God. Admit your failures to Him. He’ll help you be good.

Be Fair

 

Are your children simply acting like kids or are they truly rebellious?

Are they just plain tired? Or are you just worn out?

Unfair treatment will bring deep-seated anger. Be fair. We all make wrong judgements at times, however, let those times be an exception not the norm.

“I cried out to the Lord, and he answered me …”. Psalm 3:4

“Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from him”.

Psalm 127:3 “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up …”. Ephesians 4:29

Today’s Prayer:

“Dear Heavenly Father, I know you see me today and know all my struggles. I feel so overwhelmed but come to you in my time of need. I too cry, “help me”. I believe that you will make me good”.